RE: "Hate, Greed, and
By Robert Freedland
October 30, 2006
Steven McLaren has written That he strongly disagrees with my
letter: "Hate, Greed, and Fear." Within that letter,
I advocated for the expansion of the understanding of marriage
and family by including Civil Union Couples and same-sex couples
within that tradition. I believe strongly in the institution
of marriage and the stabilization of families that results.
I understand that many benefits of marriage include hospital
visitation, insurance coverage, inheritance for children, child
support and custody of children in the case of divorce. There
are other well-known benefits to marriage.
But Mr. McLaren has tried to use the powerful emotion of FEAR
to dissuade the readers that what I said was reasonable. He
brings up false issues, what are called "straw-man"
arguments that are not even being considered as possibilities.
He states my argument amounts to " Well, using this same
philosophy/logic, let's be fair to every American and approve
(among other things) PLURAL MARRIAGE and BEASTIALITY (sex with
or union of man and animal). Don't tell me you don't approve!
"The glue that holds these 'unions' together is not sin
but love." We may get sick to our stomach thinking about
it, but isn t this another non-traditional household?"
Did I suggest that multiple people should be considered marriage?
Did I or anyone really advocate for marriages between farm animals
and people? Of course not. But maybe it scared you just a little.
I do not necessarily approve of any couple's sexual habits and
preferences. But that is a matter of privacy between two consenting
adults. Does Mr. McLaren wish to have the government spy on
people in the privacy of their bedrooms? I don't think so. Mr.
McLaren finds same-sex activity disgusting. He writes: "Well,
join the club, I also get sick to my stomach when thinking about
Fortunately nobody is asking Mr McLaren for an endorsement of
their sexual activity. Nor do I think he would like us to review
and judge his sexual activity.
But unless Mr. McLaren is not aware of what is going on in America,
the traditional marriage unit of biologic father, biologic mother,
and biologic children is becoming more rare daily. And legislation
to declare that a marriage is only one man and one woman will
not improve this statistic. We can all share concerns about
this fact; but we need to live in reality, not on a 1950's sit-com
like "Father Knows Best" or "Leave it to Beaver".
The fact remains that today's family units often consist of just
a single mother, a single father, mothers and fathers bringing
children from prior marriages together, parents with adopted
children or foster children, and yes families headed by same-sex
parents. In the United States, as of the 2000 census, there were
701,733 same-sex parent households. (http://www.infoplease.com/ipa/A0908878.html)
So what are we as a society to do with these households which
often include children? Should we attempt to harm them? Should
we pass Constitutional Amendments to deny them legal status?
To deny them insurance? To deny those children in these homes
We do not need to approve of these households, but these homes
are real and they exist in Alaska and Wisconsin and every state
between. Decency demands that we extend love and not hate to
these people. That we work to pass laws and Amendments that
help children and not hurt them. That we do not succumb to fear
and ignorance and act in a shameful fashion that we shall regret
in the future.
And what about morality? Morality demands that we have laws
that respect the rights and privacy of every American citizen.
Morality is not about your sexual orientation no matter how
you want to spin it. Morality is about love, respect, decency,
and yes concern about children. It is a moral thing to allow
two people who love each other the right to be married. It is
immoral to place laws to keep people apart and deny them legal
benefits you reserve for yourself.
We will not improve the sanctity or morality of anything by passing
additional laws to ostracize, demean, and hurt people who are
different than us. And yes, I believe we will be damned not
by what we tolerate but by how we respect our fellow human being
on this planet. God, if anything, is about love and understanding.
Those that distort his teachings to promote hate are misguided
Thank you for taking the time to read my letter and for encouraging
others to do so as well.
La Crosse, WI
Received October 29, 2006 - Published October 30, 2006
About: "I am a physician who advocates love instead of hate,
respect instead of intolerance, and optimism instead of pessimism."
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