By JEFF LUND
January 18, 2019
Blame more people.
Believe everything I hear or read.
Get upset about things I can’t control and won’t do anything about.
Allow people to bring out the worst in me.
As I started to write this commentary on the general state of things, I realized that I wasn’t writing so much about society as I was myself. Ignoring my hypocrisy and using sarcasm to point out the plank in everyone else’s eye.
Maybe it’s so easy to see how ridiculous people are because I have so much practice at it myself. I wondered how many times I didn’t take accountability for things and instead blamed others. I wondered how many times I’ve allowed a team, political party or big issue thousands of miles away to impact my mood and then passed it on to whoever was around me.
Don’t I care? Yeah. Of course I care. But why would I outsource control over my mood to something I can’t control, then pass on my bad mood to those around me? I think it’s possible to be informed, concerned, “woke” and not let it make you miserable. It is so incredibly easy to be angry or depressed, to be so self-absorbed that everything is personal. It’s also really easy to be a jerk because society has put a value on the “right” to treat others like dirt as long as it’s funny or you’re on the right side of history.
In my 20s I wondered who these positive people were who were happy and productive and how they survived the onslaught of negativity. A few years ago, my buddy Danny started a lifestyle apparel business in California and got me onto some books that weren’t self-help, but were motivational. I saw just how vibrant the community of positive, hard-working, happy people was. Not fake-smiled, oblivious, cheerleader types, but honest people who survive the worst life can dole out, without being a pessimist. People who are empowered by admitting they are the problem, so they can then be the solution.
My world is just a tiny part of the world, but by focusing on it first, maybe I can have a better 2019.
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