DEAR CRABBY,

I work in a place that employs a large number of women. I love my job, do it well, love my bosses, and am highly compensated.

I'm very cheerful and kind to everyone. I bake and bring in cookies to share often, and yet I am treated badly by many of my co-workers. Through the years, they direct their unhappiness at me, even as my life continually gets better. I know I'm not the only one that notices this, as another person also remarked on the cattiness of these same women. The offenses include snide remarks, dirty looks, jealous overtones, and general rudeness. I can't understand their sour attitude. My life is great except for this.

It's uncalled for, as I'm not a competitive person and have no quarrel with them. I have no intention of telling management or confronting anyone.

I have excellent benefits and don't plan to leave my wonderful job after so many years. Any ideas on what else I can do?

SARAH

DEAR SARAH,

Yeah, yeah, great life; got it. And Sarah what? Sara(h) Lee? You bring in fattening goodies that blow everyone's diet the one place they can get away from food (because they are stuck at WORK-not home cooking, or shopping, or driving by a fast food place). You have complete job security, a happy homelife, and by your own admission, take home a wheel barrel of dough every payday.

Are you seriously telling me you have never been annoyed by the "perfect" girl, the sickly sweet one that everyone loves, while you are being dumped by your boyfriend, fighting with your sister, and having problems such as driving around for 3 weeks with your phone bill in your visor, so the phone got shut off, then you argue with the people because you swear you paid it, and now you have to go apologize to some smug girl half your age just to get it turned back on? Ok, that never happened to me either (I don't even have a sister), but sometimes the last person we want to see is the happy one with the "blessed" life. Would it kill you to NOT be so cheerful all the time? You're lucky they don't drag you into the ladies room and beat you up.

DEAR CRABBY,

My sister is getting married soon, and I just wanted to tell her that I really love her and am proud of her. I want to do something special for her at the wedding, maybe say some thing, but I'm not good at speeches. Do you know any words, or a book you can refer me to for a memorable thing to say to her? I don't want to look stupid, it might be filmed.

ONE SISTER LEFT

DEAR ONE SIS,

Well, now is the time to set a couple of hours aside to really meditate on the issue. I suggest you do this at the Hallmark Store. You can get some perspective, and really contemplate what you want to say. If nothing appeals to you, you might want to sit down and compose a poem. I've included a rough example. You might want to make some refining touches of your own.

crabcakes@sitnews.org

 

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