By Martha Randolph Carr
June 15, 2008
We can show these men who tried to mentor us that we've learned a thing or two watching them all these years and bring along a good attitude as well. Pick out an activity, nothing showy or expensive but definitely something they'd like to do and just be there for them. Go bowling if that's his hobby, or try out a few golf swings at the driving range or just take a slow walk around the neighborhood. Be fully present and hang on every word without thinking about what you'd really like to talk about if you could only figure out how to change the subject. Save that for the next day when you can go back to leaning on Dad's shoulder. This day, even a lazy afternoon on the couch watching old reruns on TV is acceptable if that's what would make your dad happy.
Pat Bagley, Salt Lake Tribune
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The fathers we are celebrating this Sunday thought you were important enough to get up early on their day off to help you deliver newspapers or stayed up late to help you figure out geometry even if it meant reading the chapter a couple of times really slowly.
They are the dads who show up at parent/teacher conferences and sit in undersized chairs because they want to be there. They showed up at your Wednesday afternoon soccer game after a long day at work and were particularly enthusiastic when you finally got on the field and then talked about how well you stood there, ready for action, even though the ball never even came near you. By the time it was over, even you thought your contribution was a little special.
Include on the list all of the dads who sat on the floor outside their teenage daughter's bedroom telling her through the door that not all young men are jerks and tried to make lame jokes as their voices caught in their throat. Keep a place as well for the ones who patiently taught their sons how to shave or tie a Windsor knot or the right way to treat a girl.
For everyone else, like me,
whose great dad has passed away there's still one more thing
even we can do to honor our fathers as well. Go out and find
some kid who could use a little encouragement and some of your
undivided attention and spend the day with them. While you're
at it, every now and then, say a quiet little thank you to your
dad for teaching you that sometimes the best gift we can ever
give to anyone is a little piece of ourselves. More adventures
Author's email: Martha@martharandolphcarr.com